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My suggestion? Talk to her about it. If she loves you and supports you enough to let you roam - stay with her.
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Yes, we've talked about it. She says its ok because she knows it means a lot to me, but it is a different story when it actually happens. She gets sad and gives me bad vibes when I do things on my own or with other people. She equates anything done without her as "I'm choosing to be without her" rather than just "choosing to do something on my own".
On top of that, I do believe that marriage is a commitment. I don't want to be that guy that stays married, yet has a second life. I don't think it will work for me to half-ass it either way. I want to man-up, and make a decision: either stay married to her, give her what she wants, and put in 100% effort to make our partnership the best or go on my own and put 100% effort into just being free...
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On the other hand, if you aren't sure you love her perhaps you should have a heart to heart with her about this... She deserves that soulmate kind of love in her life, and if you aren't giving that to her she's missing out! Don't let guilt and momentary discomfort get in the way of ultimate happiness.
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I am a very loving person (its natural for me to be loving to all people and creatures). She claims that I am "the one", but I am not sure about that. I guess it makes me wonder if she is my true "soulmate" since I am having these questions in the first place...
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That being said - how old are the both of you, and how long have you been married?
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We are both turning 30, have been together since college, and have been married for 5 years.
