| | Re: reflecting on life
Often we learn about ourselves by observing the mistakes of others. It is so good that you recognize this problem; that is the first step in changing your behavior.
The passing of a parent is a time when many take stock of their lives. I think that showing your emotions will go a long way toward strengthening your marriage. I would start by praising your wife whenever she does something nice for you or the kids. Tel her you appreciate the things she does for your family.
You could also touch her lightly on the shoulder when she is making dinner, or when she passes you in the house.
See if you can bring up memories of things you enjoyed doing together in the past. Comment on silly things that the kids do.
You probably fear that being emotional will make you weak, but in fact it will bring you closer to your wife and kids.
Come back and post to help others on what you did that worked. I'll bet your wife will notice the change in you, and love that you can connect emotionally with her.