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Originally Posted by EHuntIMF  "Would you really let me go like that?" I said "Yes, because I will be fine without you." |
This is PERFECT. Most WS think you can't live without them and this burst their bubbles.
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I said," I am not going to make any major decisions until I get though my feelings right now." She didn't respond but just got up got into the shower, came out got dressed and went to work. It almost seemed as if she couldn't wait to get out of the house and away from me. (should I worry?)
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I wouldn't worry, she is most likely trying to give you space because she thinks that's what you want. She is afraid of doing/saying the wrong things around you so she is pulling back and seeing what you are going to do.
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She also just called about 1 hour ago and sounded sad and said "I feel so alone right now", and she also stated " I just want all of this to be over....I just want my life to be over" I tried to calm her down, but I ended up saying that if you need to talk, I'm here for you.
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Don't be too quick to reassure her, she needs to be afraid of losing you and stay at that state for a while. She needs to be motivated to convince you that she is worth keeping.
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What has been wrong in my responses? What do I do at this point? I don't want to see her hurting, but I also want her to at least appear to want to make things right with me. What's the timeline for healing and what steps do I need to take from this point on? Thanks for your help and patience with this....
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You did most things right, just don't try to read into what she is doing because you will be wrong more times than not.
What she did was wrong and disrespectful, she needs to earn her way back to you and that means she is going to have to go through some pain, just like you are right now. Change doesn't happen overnight so let her stew for a while so it sinks in.
Stick with the 180 but understand its going to take months to resolve and just like her feelings will change, so will yours.
