Homemaker_Numero_Uno

Consult an attorney and just leave.
Not in that order.
A house is not worth your life or peace of mind.
It's not a matter of what he is doing to you, any more.
It's a matter of what you will do to yourself if you stay in this kind of situation.
You're thinking too much about it.
It's not really that murky.
Get in touch with your knee-jerk reactions. He's played mind games with you and used intimidation.

Think of it this way.
You got a puzzle in a box.
You're trying to put it together.
Well, the puzzle that is in the box is not a puzzle at all.
It's a bunch of messed up pieces that don't match.
You are in the middle of a nightmare and the only way to get out of it is a radical move that is outside the box of the game he is playing.
Which would be to leave. No contact.
Pick up the pieces of your legal and financial life later.
Talk to your workplace about protection.
Insist on it..