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he doesn’t feel like being a willing participant.
Yes I do.
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Originally Posted by Hope1964 Only thing you can work on is YOU. You seem to be attempting...and you have his input. So do what YOU think is in your best interest, and what will improve the relationship. YOU can make drinks, YOU can make coffee... YOU can do more things than you do. Do all the things you can do without depending on his input, advise or assistance. BE someone (yourself I'd hope) that he WANTS to spend time with. |
Nothing would please me more than to see her do more for herself outside of FB, gossip, and TV.
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Originally Posted by SunnyT All that being said... I think he sounds like a d*ck. You gave him too much power. He should have equal input when talking about raising the baby, but not ridiculous unreal crap. He sounds controlling (and I HATE saying that).... but that comes back to you too, because you allowed it. People will treat you however you allow them to. |
I never will believe I exercised my equal power in my child's upbringing unreasonably. Any decision I have ever made has been for the benefit, I believe, of my son. I would hope you raise your children the same way, with input. I have the right to have input when there were literally going to be people in my home all day unless I said something... And the only other time I said something was when my brother-in-law smoked marijuana, came over, and picked up my newborn. When I came down from upstairs, my wife and brother-in-law saw no problem, or like she says yes she had a problem but she's not good EVER with taking a stand with her family. I HAVE NO PROBLEM taking a stand on this, and I did when I picked up my newborn son and he smelled like marijuana. I wanted to cry. This was so soon after coming back from the hospital. I will NEVER budge on these things, and she knew all this before marrying me.
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Originally Posted by SunnyT He may be done trying.... which means that you can only work on yourself and prepare for your future. Whatever that may be.
Also.... what's up with the lack of sex? Whose idea is that? And what about marriage counseling???
Edited to add: It would be interesting to hear his point of view. If he likes this site, then get him to tell his side here and maybe you both can learn something from it. |
I'm not done trying. I'm constantly reading and discussing the topic of resentment so that I may overcome it.
The lack of sex was her idea. Since she resented me for the decisions I took with my son, it seemed to send her into resentment for years where she was no longer interested in me, which has done a lot of damage to my self-esteem. Please don't call me a d*ck.
