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First of all, it sounds like she has issues that only she can work on. She has obviously been spoiled all her life. You don't need to give in to all of that. She has to learn how to do some things for herself. You might just have to sit back and let her stumble and fall until she figures it out. Remember: if you love someone, let them go. If it was meant to be, they will come back. If not, then they were never yours in the first place.