Originally Posted by Thorburn
Tasha, tell your husband immediately what the heck is going on with you. Your friend needs to be a past memory. He does not need a second chance he needs to be gone from your life forever. You cannot ever have it both ways. The fact that you have not told your husband speaks volumes. I am trying R with my wife though I have started the paperwork for D and it is on hold. If I found out that my WS had contact with the OM it would be over. I am at the point where I am giving her a chance and in my frame of mind this would be a deal breaker. Your husband needs to know the whole truth so he can make a choice.
Totally agree with this. I am in a similar circumstance and it would be the deal breaker also. He has been out of your life with no contact for a year. Just you thinking about it would tell me you didn't really learn much in regards to your affair and you probably have no idea how much this would hurt your husband.