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Old 12-31-2011, 11:15 AM   #9 (permalink)
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Originally Posted by Allybabe_18 View Post
Ok WS's. I'm battling allot of guilt & replaying some many moments when I was dishonest w my H. But my problem is when I think about stuff or we start to discuss our feelings I have panic attacks. It starts a just feeling like I can't take a deep enough breath & then I can hardly breath at all (literally have to force myself to draw in air & forcefully push it out. Then my hands, arms chest, neck & legs start to tingle into my blood racing a 200miles an hour thru my whole body while I can't breath to the point of being dizzy. I don't know how to control it. The only thing that starts to slow it down is total distraction & time. The tough part is that I am not dealing with all our emotions & healing properly. I need to figure out how to stop them. I think it is very tough on my H because we Shud be discussing how he feels but I cant sit thru hearing some stuff. I am seeing a councillor next wk so maybe that will help.
Has anyone else felt like this? How did you deal with or get in under control? HELP!!
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I don't have panic attacks, but I still feel for you as a WS myself. It's tough to re-live all that stuff when talking to your hubby. Sounds like you're feeling a lot of guilt which is normal. I have broken down a few times, it's painful to deal with, but your husband really needs to talk about what he's feeling, and so do you.

Can you get out, maybe go for a walk when you're starting to feel the attack come on? maybe the both of you can go for a walk, we used to do that a lot, but with little kids, it can be difficult. And make sure you're eating.

goo luck, and keep posting
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