Talk About Marriage - View Single Post - I wrote this to my husband, as a guy what do you think

draconis · 03-05-2008, 10:45 PM

I know you feel hurt, however it seems your husband wants to be a part of your life and is loving and willing to work at the relationship.

It seems to me that you have a few issues.

1) the move. It would seem you both agreed even if you did so begrudgenly. However, what would the life had been like with out his job in denver. What happens when you lost that house and he couldn't pay for food? Leaving friends and family is no doubts hard. If you are outgoing enough why not look for ways to make friends in the area?

2) Doctors ~ Correct me if I am wrong but isn't OH, WV and NY all within driving distance from where you live even if you have to make a day of it it is worth traveling to see a specialist. I use to trave two hours one way to see one every six months.

3) Touch ~ I think you need you revisit his touch. He say 90% are just innocent. Maybe if you back up and see every time he hugs you before he leaves or kisses you hello, a back rub during a movie etc. Maybe you have been so mad that the real issue has made issues out of things that never where a problem.

It really sounds to me that the stress of moving has caused every other problem including you feeling isolated. Your husband is willing to work with you. If you can get over this bump things might be alot better for the both of you.

draconis

03-05-2008, 10:45 PM	#7 (permalink)
draconis Forum Supporter Join Date: Oct 2007 Location: North East Posts: 3,496	Re: I wrote this to my husband, as a guy what do you think I know you feel hurt, however it seems your husband wants to be a part of your life and is loving and willing to work at the relationship. It seems to me that you have a few issues. 1) the move. It would seem you both agreed even if you did so begrudgenly. However, what would the life had been like with out his job in denver. What happens when you lost that house and he couldn't pay for food? Leaving friends and family is no doubts hard. If you are outgoing enough why not look for ways to make friends in the area? 2) Doctors ~ Correct me if I am wrong but isn't OH, WV and NY all within driving distance from where you live even if you have to make a day of it it is worth traveling to see a specialist. I use to trave two hours one way to see one every six months. 3) Touch ~ I think you need you revisit his touch. He say 90% are just innocent. Maybe if you back up and see every time he hugs you before he leaves or kisses you hello, a back rub during a movie etc. Maybe you have been so mad that the real issue has made issues out of things that never where a problem. It really sounds to me that the stress of moving has caused every other problem including you feeling isolated. Your husband is willing to work with you. If you can get over this bump things might be alot better for the both of you. draconis