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7 out of 10 people cheat?

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#1 ·
I was looking at the advertising banner for cheaterville. I do not believe this statistic.

It makes you think. I know I have been faithful since the day I met my wife (19yrs). I also know I have thought/fantisized about cheating. I have discussed this with my wife, we both agree that it is only normal for people to fantisize about sex with people they are attracted to.

Some may say that I am crossing the line even fantisizing about having sex with a women other than my wife. My wife says it is normal most people fantisize about it; it is only the strong and faithful that do not cross the line. I tend to agree with her.

I would like to read your thoughts on this subject. Do you agree with this statistic. Seems hard to believe. For those that have been faithful, do you fantisize about having an affair?
 
#3 ·
Obviously it's a tough thing to study because it's not something typically done out in public, but probably the most authoritative study on the subject is the University of Chicago's rolling survey that's been going since the early 70s. According to that, the figure is about 20-25 percent of men and 15-20 percent of women.

Be very wary of figures cited by those who stand to profit by convincing people that cheating is rampant (i.e. authors who write self help books on the subject, private investigators, sites like cheaterville). It's in their interest to inflate the numbers and frighten you.

And don't forget, misery oves company.
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#4 ·
There are liars.

There are damn liars.

Then there are statistics.
 
#5 ·
I, myself, would be one of the 3 that doesn't. I've joked to friends that the only thing more faithful than me would be my labrador!

Depending on a person's perspective, that stat could be true. As the betrayed, I would agree, based solely on my personal experience. OTOH, being the faith type I am, I could just as easily disagree with it.

The first thing my Stats prof in college told us was that numbers can be manupilated to back up any claim.
 
#6 ·
I don't find that statistic hard to believe. The way I see it, our challenge in life is trying to use our intellect to make good decisions and overcome our historical primitive mammalistic physical tendencies.

It's not hard to believe that 7 out of 10 people can't resist their "inner primate".
 
#14 ·
Please put links to the information you are citing so that people can read the reports for themselves.

I know that the stats about 50% of all marriages ending in divorce is skewed.

Most divorces are in marriages where the people are 24 years old or younger. After that age, the rate of divorce drops off.


Divorce Statistics : Divorce Rate Statistics
 
#16 ·
After 19 years, I haven't cheated. In the past, I have had several opportunities with aggressive women that I turned down.

I am not sure what I would do now. I almost don't trust myself. I am not shy like I was before and I am a more confident person. I think I am more attractive now than I was 15 years ago. Women flirt more now than before and I tend to flirt back. All harmless so far. It's just in fun.

I can believe the study.

There was a recent story on yahoo news where a man in his 90's found out about an affair his wife had 40 years ago and they are divorcing. It set a record for the oldest divorce. I'll look for the source. Affairs can be just a one time fling that never happens again and nobody will ever know. I think that can happen a lot more than any study will ever reveal.
 
#20 ·
What is the definition of "Cheating" they use for the stat 7 of 10? Is it all out PA or is it any form of EA using the loosest definition.

Is it only marriages or is it all relationships?

I wouldn't trust that number without knowing precisely where it came from. There are a lot of ways to make a horribly incorrect calculation using good numbers.

If we assume 50% do cheat, and it is randomly distributed, we would get 25% of marriages only the man cheats, 25% of marriages only the woman cheats, and 25% both cheat. For a total of 75% of marriages have at least on person cheat. That number seems unbelievable even though it sounds about right that 50% of people cheat.

If your spouse cheats, the rate is 100% as far as you are concerned!
 
#21 ·
I know I have been faithful since the day I met my wife (19yrs). I also know I have thought/fantisized about cheating. I have discussed this with my wife, we both agree that it is only normal for people to fantisize about sex with people they are attracted to.

Some may say that I am crossing the line even fantisizing about having sex with a women other than my wife. My wife says it is normal most people fantisize about it; it is only the strong and faithful that do not cross the line. I tend to agree with her.
I just wanted to say I agree with your thoughts here, I have a tremendoulsy close & beautiful marraige ...I can't say I thought too much like this before my sexual awakening, but after it - my mind suddenly was in overdrive in that fantasy realm, I started renting porn, I was having a gooooood time. I didn't cross any lines. He was never worried about that. I have always shared everything with my husband, including wayward thoughts, he was not offended, he found it all a little amusing even. He'd just say to me ..."my dirty old woman" with a smile.

Very very few spouses can be THIS HONEST with each other without being terribly offended. I am happy we can talk openly like that. Funny how as my sex drive has declined back to where it once was, that fantasy life has also taken a dive. What hormones do to our heads is an amazing thing- so I have experienced.

I agree with Bottled up when he said this
I don't find that statistic hard to believe. The way I see it, our challenge in life is trying to use our intellect to make good decisions and overcome our historical primitive mammalistic physical tendencies.

It's not hard to believe that 7 out of 10 people can't resist their "inner primate".
I would assume the statistic is including EA's....this is what makes it so high.
 
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