desert-rose

Your wife sounds really depressed and lost. It seems like she is still looking to her family and friends to give her support instead of looking to you. Has it always been this way? Like, even before you were married? If you're sure that there is no affair, if you're sure that she loves you and is dissatisfied with the marriage for reasons other than her feelings for you, I'd say don't give up. Also, give her some space and support to figure out what she is going through. You're hurt by her ambivalence and frustration about the day to day experience of marriage, but she sounds like the kind of gal who expects the fairytale and doesn't know what to do when it is not that ideal but something else. It may just have been venting. Marriage counseling will help. More importantly, she seems to have lost herself a bit and needs to find herself. Give her support as she needs it but also give her a lot of space. She really needs to tackle this depression because it sounds like it's contributing to these problems. Try talking to her parents and letting them know how you feel and see if they can offer you another perspective. Normally, I'd say don't involve family, but she sounds like she needs some real support. You, too, by the way. I hope you've got friends or a therapist that you can talk to about what you're going through. Hang in there!