01-03-2012, 09:24 PM
Join Date: Mar 2011
Location: Intermountain West
| | Re: 10 Month Separation, Going Great, then BAM...(long, please read)
Originally Posted by gearhead65
You've got the Parent-Child dynamic. I know because I have it too. As much as you love her, let her fall on her face. File for divorce. If you're anything like me, you want a real partner. Not someone you have to raise and educate. She needs to be able to stand on her own two feet.
Let me show you something. You know how you moved into a neighbors apartment? Where did she go? Home. She ran back to mom and dad. She didn't try to make it on her own. Meaning she isn't ready to be on her own due to self-esteem issues. If she can't love herself how in the world do you expect her to love you? And more to the point love you in a way that is healthy?
You are the adult, but your giving the child the power. What does a child do with power? Re-read "Lord of the Flies". She doesn't know how to run her life or admit that she can't. It isn't good for you or for her. She'll move back in and you two will go back into this. I also wouldn't believe that she's told you everything. Or that the emails were all of them. A relationship can't survive in lies. She needs to get counseling and work on herself. You need to file and move on. If she wants you, truely wants you, there is nothing she would let get in the way of it.
Time to flip the script and heal yourself. If she comes along great, if not you're better off.