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Amplexor · 03-07-2008, 06:09 AM

Twoblave

You are just at the beginning of a very long trek. You have years of past bad behavior to make up for and prove you are a better man than before. You wife will take time before she believes you have changed. My wife and I have been working to repair our marriage for nearly a year. In that time I have made changes to my personal behavior to better meet her emotional needs. Even though I have been consistent in these changes she is still a little wary and needs time. But we are slowly getting better. Your relationship can also but be prepared for a long journey. Also keep in mind you will have little margin of error with her. Get and keep your personal life straightened out. See counseling for your additions if needed. Pursue better employment and show her you are in control of our own life. Keep your spirits up and gain your confidence. You are probably correct that you need to back off. The more you chase her and appear to be weak and needy the more she may withdraw. There’s a book called Love must be Tough by James Dobson. Give that a read and see if you can pick up some pointers. I have a mantra that I live by in my signature. Four words that I live by in the quest to bring my wife fully back to me in our marriage. Think about them and where you could use them in your life. Good luck and God bless.

03-07-2008, 06:09 AM	#4 (permalink)
Amplexor Moderator Join Date: Feb 2008 Location: Midwest Posts: 511	Re: On the verge of losing her. Twoblave You are just at the beginning of a very long trek. You have years of past bad behavior to make up for and prove you are a better man than before. You wife will take time before she believes you have changed. My wife and I have been working to repair our marriage for nearly a year. In that time I have made changes to my personal behavior to better meet her emotional needs. Even though I have been consistent in these changes she is still a little wary and needs time. But we are slowly getting better. Your relationship can also but be prepared for a long journey. Also keep in mind you will have little margin of error with her. Get and keep your personal life straightened out. See counseling for your additions if needed. Pursue better employment and show her you are in control of our own life. Keep your spirits up and gain your confidence. You are probably correct that you need to back off. The more you chase her and appear to be weak and needy the more she may withdraw. There’s a book called Love must be Tough by James Dobson. Give that a read and see if you can pick up some pointers. I have a mantra that I live by in my signature. Four words that I live by in the quest to bring my wife fully back to me in our marriage. Think about them and where you could use them in your life. Good luck and God bless. __________________ Amp Confidence – Love – Patience – Faith Are the tools to help heal a marriage.