| | Re: please dont judge me
Turn away from her and walk in the other direction and plan a life without her.
She is trying to keep you in the loop as insurance should her new planned life not work out.
Just turn and walk away.
Thankfully you didn't have children with her yet and only have three years of marriage under the belt.
It hurts like crazy but it isn't worth putting effort into saving and besides, she knows where and how to find you if she snaps out of it.
You will feel grief and angst so be prepared. But, you would feel that if you wanted to win her back to you too.
Great marriages can be ruined in the snap of a finger. Even they are vulnerable to destruction. It is sobering. It is sad (understatement).