I thought I had an addiction "to sex" when My drive exploded 3 yrs ago, I even posted on a sex addiction forum if it was possible to be monogamously married & have an addiction. I also went kinda ga ga for porn ....for the 1st time in my life - I started renting it even -but only soft -romantic type porn - PlayGirl stuff & similar.......I always loved a HOT R rated movie sex scene though - but somehow I wanted to see it ALL once my drive kicked in full force.
I was undressing every man in site, but of course only my husband got these benefits, I didn't hide the fact I was feeling all of this, it was like my mind was hi-jacked, it lasted for 8 months long (I kept a calendar) and I have some ideas to why it happened to me .... I think I got a rush of hormones around this time frame from 2 different happenings in my life -plus they say as women age, they get more sexually minded, entering that "cougar" stage, I even call this my Mid Life Crisis, it just happened to be ALL SEXUAL.
I have ALWAYS loved Romance novels, had I read more in our earlier marriage, my husband would have had alot more sex. For me, reading a page or 2 of that , I would be searching him down - terribly arousing, probably wouldn't need any forplay at all.
I think I am more visual than most women are- but I wasn't too in touch with all of this in my younger years cause I was "sexually repressed " in too many ways.
Those days are gone .
The only problem this caused in our marriage was ...he couldn't keep up with me, I started questioning his desire (all in my head), caused him some performance pressure (all in his head)..well plus I was pushing it a bit ...a few bumps along the way but a tremendous boost to our marraige all in all. I learned to be more "creative" to keep him going, learned he liked me being aggressive....we worked through it all very wonderfully.
We both enjoy a little porn together now & then.
