Originally Posted by CrzyA
Thanks IKnow. I appreciate what you've said. It makes me feel better to know that I am not alone in this. It's so frustraiting. I really do love my husband. I love the life we have. I just cannot shake this. I want to get through it and get back to where we were. I suppose that is an important part of this. My family is very important to me. I cannot imagine being without them. Even for 1 day...so I am trying. I am talking. H and I have talked many times about what I am feeling and he will ask me every couple days how we are doing.
I guess I just have to work through this day by day. IDK what else to do.
One detail I left out was that your H has to have the desire to see that there is an issue and to want work at it.
There are men that WOULD try to address the issue if they recognized it for what it is. And there are men who just will not put in the effort or do not care. MMSL is directed towards the
If H will not address your concerns, it's going to be really difficult to for work thru it. What I have come to realize is that in cases like yours, the wife may have the "symptom" but the "problem" is really both yours and H's. Don't know about your H, but if my wife confessed to me feelings like you have, I would be all about getting to work to fix things up.
This does not have to be a dealbreaker for you guys. it sounds like you are doing a lot of things right.