Originally Posted by Lydia
No one thinks that their spouse is the kind to cheat, otherwise they wouldn't have married them. I don't know why you don't think she is the type - big red flag is her communication with "friends" increased as the marriage deteriorated.
I would check the email, I would pull her phone records. Find out who she is talking to and why. I think you will be surprised at what you find.
Originally Posted by Dellia
You have her passwords and have not checked her emails? Under these circumstances, you have every right. Could it be you are scared to look because of what you might find out?
To say someone is not the type to cheat is not realistic. I agree that some people are less prone, less likely, but as long as she is a living, breathing, human being, then she is capable.
she might be capable. but what if i dont find anything bad. how can i face her? what if she found out that i saw her mails will it not make the situation much worse? i am not afraid to see whats in her mails. if she is cheating she is going to no one can stop her and she could have continued without breaking up with me or similar to that or she would have deleted the emails...there are different scenarios. but i might do that as a last option. if she is cheating she will not come back and if she is not i dont want lie to her or pretend that i havent seen her mails. i want to be honest to an extent. i want to trick her but at the sametime i dont want to look into her personal stuffs. if she is cheating she must have changed her password already and how i am supposed to find that then?