reddevilmary

MollyL, thank you for your reply and input. I do think some counseling would probably be very helpful and I have suggested it to hubby, but he wasn't very responsive. I do not think I have been very selfish or that I am very selfish......I did put a lot of "me and I" in my wording because I do not know any other way to talk about MY feelings vs. HIS feelings. We do not have the same feelings, we are not ONE, we are two people trying to create a life together. We are together all the time, we have our own business, we work together, do most things together as a family, we are very into our children...etc....believe me, we do a lot of we and our, I simply don't know how to discuss my issues and my problems in an "our" context.

I am not saying that I did not contribute to our current problems, because I do believe I made several mistakes, more than he did really.

I believe he has been selfish, but he would never admit it in a million years because he just can't face it that he really would be that way....we've had many conversations in which he has tried to convince me that I really *want* these things....and to me, my interpretation is that he's really just trying to convince himself that I really *want* these things in order to clear his conscience (sp? sorry)

We discussed things further and have stopped a lot of the arguing....so I am hopeful that we have moved past the biggest bump in the road! LOL