Originally Posted by Enchantment

Abraham Lincoln had a great quote: "“You have to do your own growing no matter how tall your grandfather was.”

At some point, as an adult, every excuse that you have that you think "holds you back" - such as how you were raised, your mother, your father, lack thereof, whatever - is just that - an excuse.

So, if men have indeed stop being men (which I dispute for the men I have mostly encountered in my life), then it is men themselves that are holding themselves back and down. Nobody else can do it. We are all responsible for ourselves, and can overcome many things if we perservere and don't look for excuses.