Your situation assessment skills are well developed. You simply refuse to enforce your boundaries. This has nothing to do with "understanding" and everything to do with allowing yourself to be treated very poorly.
OTE=Ten_year_hubby;543823]I'm keen as can be on the observation part, but I'm more than a little puzzled about what to do with my readings. My w's body language and tone are unrelentingly awful. The only conclusion I can objectively draw from this is that she is always unhappy, doesn't want to be married, doesn't want to be a mother and only does any wife or mother stuff because she is forced to.
I know I'm on thin ice here, but I consciously ignore all these data points and treat her the way I would like to be treated. I see myself as an infantry soldier slogging through enemy fire acting out of the conviction that my side will win.
I can only guess, but it appears that this may be some kind of misplaced idea of female assertiveness. Is there something else I should be doing with this?[/QUOTE]
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