Shaggy

Tover

You need to stop making decisions to do things which are "irrevocable by even me" while you are hearing voices.

These voices mean that you need to immediately talk to a professional and get help for your raging emotions.

You're currently walking through he11, and you're letting the demons get to you.

You're talking in huge dramatic phrases at a time you should be seeking peace - patience - and kindness

You're desperate to "act" and do something at a time when you should be slowing things down and letting time work it's magic.

Frankly, you're words are scaring me. You're a good man who has been pushed way to hard to the point of breaking.

You're wife has done awful awful things. Yes. It also seems that she isn't honestly very bright. She's a follower who very stupidly let herself be led by an idiot over the internet, and by a lesbian at work. She's an easy mark for people who would take advantage of her and use her.

You married this woman and pledged to protect her. She is so very very much in need to of this protection by you for the rest of her life. She hasn't got the sense or the internal emotion fortitude to always choose the smart right choice. Instead she let's herself be taken for a ride.

She's jumping from thing to thing to thing - not because she's trying to mess with you - it's because she frankly doesn't have it in her to figure out the problem. She's being asked to fix herself and it's way way beyond her to do that. She needs external guidance and protection in this journey - from her husband and from others.

She did those evil things not because she had a master plan and was following it - she did them because others told her too. Her deepest failing is that she is naive and weak.

The bouncing from explanation to explanation is because she is desperate to understand how she could have been so weak and stupid.

She isn't finding the answers in those various theories because the real answer is simply that she wasn't thinking, she wasn't smart, she wasn't in control. She was letting herself be driven and taken advantage of by nasty people who used her.

So stop talking scary dramatic talk.

Understand she's your wife and she's a person who has made really really bad choices due to influence from evil people.

Understand that as her husband, you signed up to protect her and guide her especially through the darkest times. Well sir those times are now.

To win this battle YOU need to steal yourself. If you're hearing voices - you need to talk to a real psychiatrist and tell them to go. The only voices you need to hear are yours, your wife's, your children, friends, and your faith's leaders.

We don't get through darktimes like this by dramatic actions and lines in the sand. We get through darktimes by hard work, patience, and using our intelligence and falling back on our core values.