Originally Posted by martino
She will have sex several times with the other man on your birthday and think about taunting you and how it is hurting you.
Martino! How many coffees did you have this morning?
Form only one post it's hard to say, but I am seeing things differently. It's true that she is way outa line, but half her story might be true. She may well have stopped having sex with the other guy. She may not.
But their relationship may well be crumbling. I sense she likes to be secure at all times. If it were me and I had nothing better to do, and no-one else on the horizon and I still liked her... I would play along with her. BUT... I would be thinking of the endgame: If and when she moves back in with you, there would need to be firmer ground rules than you ever had before. Make a shopping list of what you want in a wife, and make sure she is willing to "buy everything on the list".
So for instance, if she was in the habit of withholding sex from you, that would be a no-no. If she gets back together with you, she will respect this new-found firmness. She sounds so rudderless herself, she would fancy the pants of a man whit a rock-hard no-nonsense attitude.
It's good that you've forgiven her, it means that all other things being equal, you have every chance of having a very bright future. But it's vital that when you take her back, you act like a man.