I recieved an anonymous letter in the mail last March(the 15th to be exact) will never forget that day.....Almost dropped to my knees standing at the kitchen counter. By the time he got home from work 4 hours later, I had all the ammunition and proof I needed from cell phone bills, credit card bills, etc. It is a major long story, but she approached him at work and told him she would like to get together outside of work-she admitted this as well(trust me-I am in NO way defending what he did- he is just as responsible-of not more) Come to find out, she was also stringing along another guy, who she was living with unbeknownst to my husband, she had been telling him that she was considering "dating" this guy, in my opinion to make him desperate enough to leave me for her....Anyway, by the time he got home from work I knew where she lived, and with whom and drove my husband to this guys house, he had no idea was was going on, that I knew, etc. He told me in front of her that he told her he would never leave me, and that he loved me, but that our sex life was dead(which I will admit-it was- and it was primarly me-menopause, etc....still no excuse to do what he did)
I was so shocked because he has always treated me so good, affectionate, loving, tender, etc. I am so sad and disallusioned by all of this. It's not like I am some horrible person physically either, sure I would love to lose 10lbs etc, but still m considered quite attractive, I don't get it, she is actually ugly, but I am guessing she knew how to make it all about him.....I am still distraught.....