Originally Posted by Wantsmore
I hate to say it but yes, I have a very high drive and so did she at one point. 3-4 times a day in the past, when we had the time for it. I just cant figure out why some women regress or stop putting in the effort into things they used to.
I mean seriously is it really too much for wife (or husband for that matter) to reciprocate to the other? I do things for her I hate doing but guess what, I do it anyway.
A few weeks ago I took oral off the table for her and you should have seen the reaction. Yeah, imagine my surprise when she told me she loves when I do that. I have been waiting to hear that for 15 years! Do you think a weekly or hell a really good monthly **** sucking is out of the question?
Seriously there are other issues at play and it is more then likely not from the husband. IF what he is saying is true about what he does for her.
You just answered your own question.... You say you and your W had sex like rabbits back in the day, but you lead that statement with "when we had time"... Apparently y'all don't have time to do it like that anymore.
And why did it take 15 years for you to hear she loves when you perform oral? In 15 years, you never thought to have a chit chat with her about that? My H asks me sometimes, shortly after even, if I enjoyed that, and vice versa, I'll ask him
And when it comes to advice on here and anywhere for that matter, it is often suggested to look at what you are doing first... Often times, one has to look at themselves and their approach to things. I've said it before and I'll say it again, I came here complaining about my H always wanting sex years ago... I wanted advice on how to shut him up... Wow, was I surprised. Almost everyone who gave me advice told me to look at ME first... That's a concept I never even thought about. I soon discovered I was wrong in my approach, I was wrong in my communication with my H, I was wrong in expecting he be okay with my not wanting to have sex, etc... So like uphill suggested, the advice here actually goes both ways