Originally Posted by FirstYearDown
More than one man took advantage of my previously sweet and caring nature. That was when I became more devious and self serving. It was the best choice I ever made. I stopped wasting time with losers.
When we were dating, I showed my husband more love than he showed me. After I levelled the playing field by being less available and rethinking exclusivity, our feelings became much more even. He saw that I was a woman who could easily move on; I wasn't going to sit at home an pine for him like he expected.
Your approach to level the field is the same used by men to level their field with women they spend energy on incommensurately. Of course that's what you should have done...
However, the conclusion is that for the MOST part, there has occurred a great shift in gender roles in that they are BY AVERAGE close to equal, but in many mens' realities the woman they are interested in might be making what they make or more. Then, even in these cases, sadly, when it comes to courting each other, courting is still HEAVILY financially based (courting = $$$ or there is no 2nd date, similar to your test) and is still often always the sole effort of the male, as if he made twice the woman's salary like in the fifties...
The ultimate have your cake and eat it too... This is the case for many guys...
The whole point YOU'RE trying to make about men misrepresenting themselves to bed women or take advantage of them, well, that still happens with men AND women... However, there is quite the discrepancy between materialistic women being courted by financially equal men (common, EXPECTED sometimes) and materialistic men being courted by financially equal women (very rare).
In short, **** "ladies" I say.