Hello GT,
Thank God for good fathers like you.
DO NOT LET ANYONE GET IN BETWEEN YOU AND YOUR CHILDREN!!! NO ONE! NO ONE! NO ONE!
You know what the right thing is and that is why you are getting depressed. Dolly needs some boundaries. It is not appropriate for her to call the mother of your children names and to get in between you and your children.
Your children should always be number one; all of them. Dolly needs to understand that your first two children born are your family and this is not up for negotiation. She should be proud that you are a good father. She should welcome your children and try to be a positive stepmother in their life. Your youngest daughter’s life is blessed with your first two born children. Dolly needs to “grow up” and be a good wife and a good mother to her daughter. She should promote all of the children being together and loving each other. Dolly needs to get clear on how destructive she is being to you and all three children. Shame on her!!
We have all heard about dead-beat-dads. Dolly should be grateful that you are a loving and caring father who is active in all his children’s lives. Dolly needs to wake up and count her blessing to have such a wonderful husband and father for her daughter.
Remember: Girlfriends, boyfriends, husbands and wives may come and go, but your children will always be your children. Love them and be the type of parent you wanted and they need. The love that you give your children will give them a solid foundation to life. If you are not active in your children’s lives, if you are not emotionally available to them, they will experience a love deficiency and look for that love elsewhere. This could be very damaging.
Do not let Dolly have control and diminish the quality of your relationship with any of your children. She knew you had children when she married you, and she needs to deal with it. She needs to learn that no one has the option to get in between any of your children. NO ONE!!
Do what whatever is necessary to create a positive and loving environment for you and all of your children.
Good luck and keep being a fantastic dad!! Take your younger daughter with you when you pick up your other children for ice cream.
