| | Re: My wife mad at me after 3sum with another man.
I would say it was a little of both as well. I think as a man you have a responsibility to protect her. But in any situation when two or more people are out getting drunk that if someone is 'less drunk' they have some responsibilty to watch out for someone in the group who has had too much to make smart decisions. This doesn't just apply to husband and wife in my opinion.
I am very happy to hear that a condom was used but knowing that you have not done something like this before or never seriously discussed doing it makes me think you really should have stopped it or pulled her aside to try to talk to her about it to decide if she was making a concious decions to do this before you let it happen.