Originally Posted by chapparal
Yes I've thought the sleeping arrangements have been one of the things that has cemented the status quo. Sleeping like roomates instead of lovers.
What can you work on at night that you could not get up early and do. Once in awhile is fine but every night is beyond the pale.
You could probably find you could work her into staying up a litttle later over time.
If she is sleeping a lot though, that could be a sign of depression.
Guys...my promotion this year made me a controller for an international firm...with offices in China, UK, and the Middle East. I am frequently on conference calls with these parts of the world, in the evening. Also....I spend so much time putting out fires during the day....I need time in the evening to do substantive work. This year was incredibly difficult because it took me four months to find my replacement....meaning I did BOTH jobs. Even after I found my replacement....I'm STILL trying to get him up to speed. So...this year...I've been unbelievably busy. But the light of day is coming.
That being said......for years I tried to compromise with her. Just stay up until 10:00 - 11:00...we can both go to bed. She wouldn't. Understand....that through 2008...she was a SAHM. So...I just couldn't understand it. Maybe something we can work on during MC.