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oceanbreeze · 03-09-2008, 11:28 PM

The only example I can relate are my paternal grandparents. My Grandfather until this day could not keep his hands off many other women. I was told that my father, the eldest son, would go along with his mother and they would catch his father in the act with other mistresses. They have also met his other kids from the other women.

They've been married for over 50 years and my grandmother saw these women. I dont know how she dealt with it personally, but she would turn to her mother and father to help raise her six children. In their religion and old culture divorce is not an option so she stuck with her husband the whole time.

On my mother's side, my maternal Grandmother also saw the mistress of my maternal Grandfather. Where my maternal Grandparents are from divorce is allowed, but my Grandmother was strong enough to stick to the marriage and raise my mom and auntie until he died a few years later and they lived off the life insurance.

For you divorce is not an option as you say and that your husband will forever cheat. Since both of you know what is going on, then maybe you can make rules that if he cheats it is NOT in YOUR home. He must wear protection and that YOU are in charge of the bank account. Make yourself a separate bank account so you have money just in case.

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oceanbreeze Member Join Date: Oct 2007 Posts: 71	Re: Can I really deal with infidelity The only example I can relate are my paternal grandparents. My Grandfather until this day could not keep his hands off many other women. I was told that my father, the eldest son, would go along with his mother and they would catch his father in the act with other mistresses. They have also met his other kids from the other women. They've been married for over 50 years and my grandmother saw these women. I dont know how she dealt with it personally, but she would turn to her mother and father to help raise her six children. In their religion and old culture divorce is not an option so she stuck with her husband the whole time. On my mother's side, my maternal Grandmother also saw the mistress of my maternal Grandfather. Where my maternal Grandparents are from divorce is allowed, but my Grandmother was strong enough to stick to the marriage and raise my mom and auntie until he died a few years later and they lived off the life insurance. For you divorce is not an option as you say and that your husband will forever cheat. Since both of you know what is going on, then maybe you can make rules that if he cheats it is NOT in YOUR home. He must wear protection and that YOU are in charge of the bank account. Make yourself a separate bank account so you have money just in case.