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nikkilaya1234 · 03-09-2008, 08:52 PM

Oh wow! I'm having the same problem! Or I've had the same problem. He was my best friend, actually.

To answer your question, YES! I would definitely speak up.

When my best friend dated another "sorta" friend of mine and his, I told him straight up that she was all wrong for him. She cheated on him and I told him. He got upset that she would do that to him and thanked me but of course, sometimes having feelings for a person you like can overcome the relationship between friends and he told her and we all got into an argument. She forced him and threatened him about the friendship he and I had together and he ended up leaving me as a best friend. We no longer talk because of her. I don't regret telling him about how and who she really was. But I hate that I lost him. He was the greatest friend I had.

Now, they've been together for a year and a half and she moved hours away where he's going to school. Next semester they're moving in together.

On the inside, I wish that they break up so I can have my best friend back, but honestly, if he's happy, even without me, I'm happy for him.

Really, it's a hard thing to do. If you tell him or her, there's a possibility that everything could go wrong and you could lose having that person as a friend because of his or her dumb "significant" other. If you keep your mouth shut, then you could potentially witness your good friend get his or her heart broken.

03-09-2008, 08:52 PM	#10 (permalink)
nikkilaya1234 Registered User Join Date: Mar 2008 Location: Texas Posts: 5	Re: If your best friend Oh wow! I'm having the same problem! Or I've had the same problem. He was my best friend, actually. To answer your question, YES! I would definitely speak up. When my best friend dated another "sorta" friend of mine and his, I told him straight up that she was all wrong for him. She cheated on him and I told him. He got upset that she would do that to him and thanked me but of course, sometimes having feelings for a person you like can overcome the relationship between friends and he told her and we all got into an argument. She forced him and threatened him about the friendship he and I had together and he ended up leaving me as a best friend. We no longer talk because of her. I don't regret telling him about how and who she really was. But I hate that I lost him. He was the greatest friend I had. Now, they've been together for a year and a half and she moved hours away where he's going to school. Next semester they're moving in together. On the inside, I wish that they break up so I can have my best friend back, but honestly, if he's happy, even without me, I'm happy for him. Really, it's a hard thing to do. If you tell him or her, there's a possibility that everything could go wrong and you could lose having that person as a friend because of his or her dumb "significant" other. If you keep your mouth shut, then you could potentially witness your good friend get his or her heart broken.