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oceanbreeze · 03-09-2008, 08:59 PM

My significant other watches porn every other day to everyday.He watches his TV shows every day and eats junk food non-stop. I cant help him because he's a grown guy. We dont live together, since we both live with our parents still. And I am getting tired of him disrespecting me lately. When we go out he looks at other women in short skirts or tight clothes right in front of me. The last time I could not help but knock him right there in front of everyone. I feel completely frustrated and find myself not wanting to be with him anymore. He does what he wants and I am getting tired of him being stubborn and getting his own way. This happens every few months over the past seven years we've been together. And what makes me upset is that after he says sex has been so incredible and then the next day he has the urge to watch porn and masturbate. He tries to lie to me about it and I am getting fed up. He wants us to get married next year and I dont want to because I can see he's an "I" person and not quite there at "US." On top of that, his mother molested him for fourteen years and he still hasnt gotten help with that. There are some boundaries with her, but I can see after he's seen her, he acts very hostile and becomes sneaky to me. And it turns out that she also instigates against me as well as talk about her sex life with his dad's sister's husband.

I feel that since my significant other is not in a better personal situation, that he's not ready for marriage. I am getting tired of his lies, money spending, porn addiction, b1tchy instigating mom, disrespecting wandering eyes and I feel like I want to explode.

When we were first together many girls would come from nowhere until I found out that his so-called friends were setting him up to break us up. He is very passive-aggressive when he doesnt want to deal with things and it made me look like a witch when I would fight for us. Then some of the members in his family (his mom and brother) would fight against me. His brother would fight against me because his other so-called friend was still instigating about me. After he left the picture, the brother and my relationship is a bit shaky, not as good as it used to be since we also grew up together. And now there is his mother, and my significant other's addictions that I dont want to deal with anymore because it has been 2 years and I am tired of waiting to see any improvement.

All I do see is that he still cares for me, but at the same time tries to lie (I can see right through him) and that he has his goals of marriage, family, and a house together.

I dont know what to do. When I am with him I enjoy most of the times I am with him. He is usually very good to me and very attentive, but other times he's a jerk and I am getting tired of it. When we have a conversation, we cant have one because he watches TV or allows his family to continuously interrupt. He says things will change once we get married, but I know it's a lie. I've told him things will not change and that marriage will give him the opportunity to only hide behind me as he does now in front of others.

On my part I take care of my family and help contribute to the household since my mom is a single parent of four children. Me being the eldest takes its toll a bit since I have to take care of the house-hold if my mother can only do so much as she is sick with her stomach and the main breadwinner of the household. My father is a leech and comes over for free dinners, but we dont let him in anymore. I try to continue school, but am falling behind. I am stressed out that I am not bringing in enough money to help out and all I feel like doing is exploding.

I feel like if my significant other can just do these simple things for me then it would be nice. But he insists that he'll stop the porno, he insists that he's already buff enough. Making love to him sucks because he has a huge pot-belly and he's only 24. I cant stand it anymore and all I ever think about now is fking every hot intelligent guy I see. I am very open about how I feel and have told my significant other how I feel. and have informed my siblings on to acting on their part, but nothing seems to improve and that's what really bugs me.

03-09-2008, 08:59 PM	#1 (permalink)
oceanbreeze Member Join Date: Oct 2007 Posts: 46	non-stop addiction: porn food masturbating My significant other watches porn every other day to everyday.He watches his TV shows every day and eats junk food non-stop. I cant help him because he's a grown guy. We dont live together, since we both live with our parents still. And I am getting tired of him disrespecting me lately. When we go out he looks at other women in short skirts or tight clothes right in front of me. The last time I could not help but knock him right there in front of everyone. I feel completely frustrated and find myself not wanting to be with him anymore. He does what he wants and I am getting tired of him being stubborn and getting his own way. This happens every few months over the past seven years we've been together. And what makes me upset is that after he says sex has been so incredible and then the next day he has the urge to watch porn and masturbate. He tries to lie to me about it and I am getting fed up. He wants us to get married next year and I dont want to because I can see he's an "I" person and not quite there at "US." On top of that, his mother molested him for fourteen years and he still hasnt gotten help with that. There are some boundaries with her, but I can see after he's seen her, he acts very hostile and becomes sneaky to me. And it turns out that she also instigates against me as well as talk about her sex life with his dad's sister's husband. I feel that since my significant other is not in a better personal situation, that he's not ready for marriage. I am getting tired of his lies, money spending, porn addiction, b1tchy instigating mom, disrespecting wandering eyes and I feel like I want to explode. When we were first together many girls would come from nowhere until I found out that his so-called friends were setting him up to break us up. He is very passive-aggressive when he doesnt want to deal with things and it made me look like a witch when I would fight for us. Then some of the members in his family (his mom and brother) would fight against me. His brother would fight against me because his other so-called friend was still instigating about me. After he left the picture, the brother and my relationship is a bit shaky, not as good as it used to be since we also grew up together. And now there is his mother, and my significant other's addictions that I dont want to deal with anymore because it has been 2 years and I am tired of waiting to see any improvement. All I do see is that he still cares for me, but at the same time tries to lie (I can see right through him) and that he has his goals of marriage, family, and a house together. I dont know what to do. When I am with him I enjoy most of the times I am with him. He is usually very good to me and very attentive, but other times he's a jerk and I am getting tired of it. When we have a conversation, we cant have one because he watches TV or allows his family to continuously interrupt. He says things will change once we get married, but I know it's a lie. I've told him things will not change and that marriage will give him the opportunity to only hide behind me as he does now in front of others. On my part I take care of my family and help contribute to the household since my mom is a single parent of four children. Me being the eldest takes its toll a bit since I have to take care of the house-hold if my mother can only do so much as she is sick with her stomach and the main breadwinner of the household. My father is a leech and comes over for free dinners, but we dont let him in anymore. I try to continue school, but am falling behind. I am stressed out that I am not bringing in enough money to help out and all I feel like doing is exploding. I feel like if my significant other can just do these simple things for me then it would be nice. But he insists that he'll stop the porno, he insists that he's already buff enough. Making love to him sucks because he has a huge pot-belly and he's only 24. I cant stand it anymore and all I ever think about now is fking every hot intelligent guy I see. I am very open about how I feel and have told my significant other how I feel. and have informed my siblings on to acting on their part, but nothing seems to improve and that's what really bugs me.