Originally Posted by DTO
Or, he's simply not committed enough to you to stick with you during the down times. Your life might not be in danger from the tumor or surgery, but it seems like you will experience repercussions for an extended period (ongoing health issues, loss of income from being unable to work) that will impact his lifestyle negatively if he continues to stick around.
I am definitely not defending him, just making an observation from having been on the receiving end of similarly crappy treatment. I'm sorry this happened to you, and you deserve better.
As sad as it is, that was one of my first thoughts when he chose to set himself upon this path. I have felt that he decided this course of action when the cash flow ceased, ie: my income producing ability. See, when we first met, I was gainfully employed and he wasn't. I had my own condo, he lived in his parents' garage. I had a car, he didn't and had lost his license to a DUI. (Now I see the pattern of red flags!).
Over the years though he became a viable contributor to the home, life and family we were building. He overcame, conquered even, so much and everytime I was right by his side with unflinching faith. I willingly sacrificed my job to be his partner in achieving his dream of a family biz.
There are a multitude of events, good and bad, in the story of us. Hurts that it seems to me that he has chosen to edit and rewrite that history.
Now here I am, attempting to completely reconstruct my life, beginning with employment.