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Amplexor · 03-10-2008, 06:48 AM

Molly92

Sounds like he is placing blame with you. He is the one with the bad financial habits. He is the one that lost his job. He is the one that walked out on you and your three boys. For him to do these things then come up with a “list” of things he doesn’t like about you sounds pretty selfish. Sounds like he is the one that needs fixing, not you. Now, I understand that marriage is a two way street and that when they experience difficulties both parties carry some of the blame. But he needs to share the blame. If he doesn’t like to talk because you are too emotional, try and pull back a bit. Let him know that you are strong and can handle things fine by yourself. I believe he would much rather deal with a strong confident woman than someone who is unsettled whenever you meet or try to discuss issues. It will also show him that you will be fine on your own if this doesn’t work out and that alone may give him pause about leaving. Find your strength and faith during this time. Love your kids and help them though this time of trouble. They deserve your love and support at this point more than he does. If you focus on them it will be healthier for all of you in the long run. Let him know you love him and want him to return but that right now your children are your top priority. Good luck and Bless.

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Amplexor Moderator Join Date: Feb 2008 Location: Midwest Posts: 431	Re: Separation -- I didn't want Molly92 Sounds like he is placing blame with you. He is the one with the bad financial habits. He is the one that lost his job. He is the one that walked out on you and your three boys. For him to do these things then come up with a “list” of things he doesn’t like about you sounds pretty selfish. Sounds like he is the one that needs fixing, not you. Now, I understand that marriage is a two way street and that when they experience difficulties both parties carry some of the blame. But he needs to share the blame. If he doesn’t like to talk because you are too emotional, try and pull back a bit. Let him know that you are strong and can handle things fine by yourself. I believe he would much rather deal with a strong confident woman than someone who is unsettled whenever you meet or try to discuss issues. It will also show him that you will be fine on your own if this doesn’t work out and that alone may give him pause about leaving. Find your strength and faith during this time. Love your kids and help them though this time of trouble. They deserve your love and support at this point more than he does. If you focus on them it will be healthier for all of you in the long run. Let him know you love him and want him to return but that right now your children are your top priority. Good luck and Bless. __________________ Amp Confidence – Love – Patience – Faith Are the tools to help heal a marriage.