Jenny41

Thanks for those ideas/ replies- much appreciated. Things in other areas of our marriage are generally ok: we're both fit and healthy, have kids we love, nice home and good careers. No problems like substance abuse or anything. I think it'll always be like this. I'm good tempered as a rule and always the one to back down. I feel like I'm not being true to myself to just act like everything's fine on those few sporadic times- that's my real problem in that situation. I don't think I ever said I wasn't in the mood in our whole lives- just the opposite. I'm a typical healthy 40 yr old woman with a normal libido and a reluctant partner- just feeling a bit sad about it sometimes! I will keep trying to communicate though, as I'm sure that's the way forward here. Thanks, CallaLily, Botttled-Up and Treys_69 for your kind suggestions.