| | Re: Urgent advice needed
She's in love with him. So what if the other man's wife finds out? you found out and nothing really happened, the same I suspect will be between him and his wife.
If you're serious about saving your marriage it first has to start with your wife losing feelings for that man. Even if they have no contact the feelings will still be there and it will just turn into resentment towards you. And as proven already, time and time again she goes back to him.
Time to man up and bring out the ol' 180.