Techgal, I hear what you're saying. I'm so sorry that your husband, probably for a number of reasons, including his own insecurity and woundedness, continues to ridicule you. It's really his loss, because you were created in God's image and likeness, and are truly beautiful and loved. Period. While it's good that he desires to be faithful to the Church's teachings, he also needs to take a good look at his own heart and soul. Which brings me to my second point: Contraception. As someone who used to be on the pill, and who now uses the Creighton model of Fertility Care (
www.creightonmethod.com) to plan my family, I highly recommend you look not only into NFP, but really search for the truth when it comes to the purpose and meaning of marriage. It's challenging, but I promise you happiness if you really seek for your purpose. If there's one book you could read, I would recommend Christopher West's "Good News About Sex & Marriage." Actually, it would be great if your husband read it too. It's very readable and contemporary--West is a young fella who almost left the Church over contraception. Also, for more on NFP, see
Natural Family Planning. The Creighton Method, by charting and seeing patterns in your cycles, can also help you with your PMS much better than the pill, which is a bandaid to your symptoms.
Remember, you are beautiful, and are called to an amazing mission in life. Find it.