Originally Posted by morituri
Pain is inevitable, no matter which one you choose, D or R.
You are nowhere near R and until she ends her affair for good, establishes NC and commits to doing the hard work for R, you will continue living in a one sided open marriage.
Frankly I would recommed you filing for divorce for your own peace of mind and personal recovery.
I have seriously considered this and feel it's the only way forward. But in spite of all this I love her still.
When I asked her recently if ever thought I was resentful of her, she said no, why would you? She is lost in her fantasy, with almost no thought for anyone else. She chases him, pleading to meet. Would do anything for him and anything to protect him, but knows he would not leave his partner for her.