Originally Posted by movingfast
I think you are both right. Some time apart would give her time to clear her mind. Not only are we both dealing with leaving our marriages, her parents are talking about getting a divorce too. That just adds much more un-needed stress on her right now.
I guess I'm scared to give her the space. Scared to be alone, scared she will find someone else who she is more happy with.... It's hard to think that though, because we both gave up so much to be with each other.
I've been doing a lot of reading, and I think one good stance for me to take right now is to hide my emotions and just be strong and supportive for her, to not add any more tension. If she wants some space, I'll give her what she wants and will be there to support her. I hopped that she would like to be with me during a difficult time like this, but maybe that's me rushing in to things some. I think for now, i'm going to not express any of my problems or concerns and focus on helping her deal with her issues without addressing mine.
Movingfast..The fact that you're scared to be alone is a clear indication that you need to be by yourself to heal and work on YOU. You are really insecure right now and in that frame of mind you can't be happy or develop and maintain a healthy relationship with Betty. If Betty finds someone else that makes her happier than so be it. Do you really want a woman who cannot commit to you? Sounds like you fell for the rebound and we all know those relationships seldom work out. The best thing for YOU is to take time and figure out what you want and need. If it turns out you and Betty want different things, then you owe it to yourself to find a woman with whom you can travel the same road with and be happy. I wish you the best.