Immortalone

I hope you don't mind but I'm going to put in a man's point of view here. Not saying it is right or wrong just a diffrent look at it.

First, men put alot of worth into our job. We judge ourselves at acheaving at it and strive to do better at it. We see people in our life as judging us through our standing and mainly our standing in our work place. It is how we feel we provide for our family and show them love. I know women want there man to show there love by putting there home and familey first but in our eyes that is exactly what we are doinog. Even if we can't stand the job we will strive to get ahead in it. In our eyes us getting ahead in the job is providing more for our familey so there for we are showing our love more by working long hours and bringing home more pay.

Secondly, if your husband takes care of all the bills and now wants you to work a full time job then the chances are he has run into a snag. You would think we would be able to sit down with our spouces and say hey. I am having a hard time makeing this payment is there something we can cut back on or can the two of us put in a few more hours a week until this is cleared up. That would be great but here agian as a man we don't do that. Instead we hold the burden into ourselves thinking in our mind that if we did admit this to our spouce then we failed them. The problem is we do this for so long that the problem gets bigger and more urgent. At that point we start lashing out as your husband is doing. What you see as him not being happy and makeing unfair demands on you I see as a cry for help. I could be wrong but I think it would be worth sitting down with your husband. Going over the bills with him. Not judging him if there is a problem and figure a solution out together.

Just my 2 cents worth as a man. Hope this helps some.
Robert

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