Originally Posted by stressedmomandwife

Hi, Im new to this but I need help/advice.
Where to begin... About a month ago I happened to look through my H cell phone, I noticed there were deleted text messages with a co worker I then took down her phone number and looked up our phone records and found out that there were ongoing text messages between them for several months. I confronted him and he said it was all work related, of course I did not believe him and begged for the truth. He finally admited that she was just a friend but that there were some inappropriate comments made between the two. Prior to him beginning this A we were both unhappy and had problems, I felt myself falling out of love. We have been together for almost 9 years and have two kids, it is very easy for a marriage to become a routine and I think that is why we were falling apart, but we were working on things and I thought things were getting better, I was falling in love with him all over again. I have been trying so hard to get passed this and forgive him, but I cant stop thinking about it, it still feels so fresh and hurts so bad. I cant help but to feel betrayed, ugly, hurt, he has been trying to be very supportive and has stopped talking to her. I confronted her and asked her to stop talking to him as well. Obviously I dont know what happens at work but of course I still look at our phone records and there has not been any activity with her. Will this get easier? Can I learn to trust him again? Will it stop hurting? How do I forgive him and move past this without throwing it in his face everytime I think about it? Its been such an emotional rollercoaster, Im mad at him, hurt with him, but love him so much and I dont see myself without him, but giving up seems so much easier. Help.