draconis

James-son

Here is my input that you might not like. For eighteen years you neglected your wifes mental and emotional needs. You felt you could buy her stuff to satisfy her with the comfort of love and trust, compassion and appriation. Now after a year of trying to give her these things you find she has become independant from you (after the first 18 years) and doesn't need or want you.

I have read these posts a million times from both sides. If I was talking to your wife right now she'd say it was to little to late.

I think instead of talking through a councilor you need to talk to your wife. Tell her now that you have slowed down you understand how much you have missed out on but that if she gives you a chance you want to be more then just a provider but a husband too.

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