Talk About Marriage - View Single Post - Be honest guys, have you fallen for the "friends" thing that some women pull

RainbowGirl · 01-20-2012, 03:48 PM

My OH is very good friends with one of his exes. Well actually, he is a good friend but it is not reciprocated. I have posted before about his inclination to attach himself to needy women. This is a friend that he has had for 20 years, and they had a bit of a fling but never worked out. I suppose it depends on what you quantify as an 'ex'.

I am not threatened by her in terms of 'will he leave me for her'. My one reluctance comes from the way he panders and mollycoddles her. For example, he calls her on her birthday and speaks for hours, and will buy her a gift. Yet on HIS birthday, we don't hear from her, not even a card. To me that is a very one-sided friendship. All his other friends who are also friends with her laugh at their relationship. It seems to have been typical to fob her off to him when she got 'too needy' for anyone else to handle.

This is a trait of his that I have a real issue with. Fortunately it doesn't manifest as much when I am around, but the minute I am away or we are not together he hooks up with his needy female friends.

Why are men incapable of spending time alone?

01-20-2012, 03:48 PM	#15 (permalink)
RainbowGirl Member Join Date: Oct 2011 Location: UK Posts: 39	Re: Be honest guys, have you fallen for the "friends" thing that some women pull My OH is very good friends with one of his exes. Well actually, he is a good friend but it is not reciprocated. I have posted before about his inclination to attach himself to needy women. This is a friend that he has had for 20 years, and they had a bit of a fling but never worked out. I suppose it depends on what you quantify as an 'ex'. I am not threatened by her in terms of 'will he leave me for her'. My one reluctance comes from the way he panders and mollycoddles her. For example, he calls her on her birthday and speaks for hours, and will buy her a gift. Yet on HIS birthday, we don't hear from her, not even a card. To me that is a very one-sided friendship. All his other friends who are also friends with her laugh at their relationship. It seems to have been typical to fob her off to him when she got 'too needy' for anyone else to handle. This is a trait of his that I have a real issue with. Fortunately it doesn't manifest as much when I am around, but the minute I am away or we are not together he hooks up with his needy female friends. Why are men incapable of spending time alone?