Hello guys wondered if anyone can help me out with this especially mens opinions.
I have been married to my husband since July 2008 and since then we have had 2 children. I am 24 and he is 27. Since my first child was born the sex has just slowly disappeared from our marriage. I adressed the problem 3 years ago and told him if he didn't tell me whats wrong it would get worse.
Before i had my fist child we would have sex all the time everyday, now i havnt changed im slim, good looking big boobs really hot if i dont mind saying,lol and i get told it all the time.
My friends say i am wasted on him
Big problem is my husband never compliments me when we go out or says anything nice. The other day we went to a new pub and he introduced me to his pool mates and one rather drunk friend shouted YOU F**KING LUCKY BASTARD.
I should have felt flattered but instead i burned inside thinking yea well he never wants me ,

ever we never have sex.
Right now i recon we have sex once a month if that, now before he always initiated it as we just both new when we wanted eachother and i was always up for it. Now.....

i try but i get excuse after excuse. best one so far is i will get cramp
Last night when he got home from work i sent him a sms from the bedroom saying am i lying here naked for nothing?
Guess what he stayed downstairs and watch tv all night. He only ever makes a pass at me when hes drunk?? So theres an ego knock for me he has to be wasted to have the urge!
I really feel like i cant even love him anymore when the sex goes all the connection does and its like the glue in a relationship
I just feel like going out and finding a lover, why would he even care . For me its not even about sex i just want someone to desire me and fill my love tank becuase its bone dry.
I know some men go funny when they see a birth but he didnt even see anything i wouldnt let him and both births were very straight forward i dint need stiches or anything.
I was so paranoid that my vg wasnt tight enough but that was put to rest as my doctor said i was tiny in my examination and need a smaller tool, sorry over details there.
What do i do i am only 24 and i feel like i will never be happy with him