romantic_guy

I wish I could help. I am always totally stumped when a thread like this appears. I am 56 and want sex all of the time. My wife is the perfect body type for me (size 4 jeans, small breasts) so if I ever got a call telling me that she was in bed naked and waiting on me...I don't care if it was in the middle of the Superbowl, I would be on her in 30 seconds! She is typical of many women in that she has what is called “responsive desire,” while my sexual response is more likely characterized by “spontaneous desire.” This simply means that I am not likely to get the "I am in bed naked waiting for you" phone call. I am the one who most often lights the fire...then she responds.

Have you tried asking him what the problem is?

Have you considered counseling?

I guess one way to handle this is stop chasing him. Start dressing up and going out with friends. Act disinterested in him. Maybe he will realize what he could lose.

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The marriage bed must be a place of mutuality—the husband seeking to satisfy his wife, the wife seeking to satisfy her husband. Marriage is not a place to "stand up for your rights." Marriage is a decision to serve the other, whether in bed or out. 1 Corinthians 7:2 (The Message)