| | Re: Wife doesn't care about her appearance...
Your spouse is no reflection on you, and anyone with sense will understand that.
It's irrational to judge someone based on their spouse, particularly since very few people know the whole story. Anyone who actually does that is just revealing that they are a pretty shallow person--shallow as in, rushing to judgment on things they don't know about, rather than stopping to think things through.
Does having a spouse who is "unattractive" mean you are a less intelligent, capable, interesting, etc., person than you are? Of course not. When you let your spouse's appearance be a reflection on you, in means you are allowing yourself to assume that others are judging you for what your spouse looks like. Rational people won't, and who cares what the others think?