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Zhopa · 01-22-2012, 06:36 AM

Hello XSunnyX,

We have the same problem... after having the baby, my wife, who used to match my high level of desire (heck we'd do it any chance we could get through the ninth month) utterly lost interest. Refused to have her hormone levels checked, though something changed... refused to do anything to even try and make this better.

There are variations in details, as my wife's sexual rejection of me has expanded to other areas; for example, she puts me down in front of the children or in front of other people. Does the non-sex extend to other areas (not necessarily abuse, but perhaps there is something)?

Think about it...I am not certain that counselling is useful or just prolonging the inevitable with the counsellors making the big money.

Of course we could swop partners and everyone will be happy... just kidding as I'm a dirty old man of 47... but the point is, you and I feel that good frequent sex is important to the relationship and our spouses do not. Romantic_Guy is on the mark: I have stopped chasing, I'm nice & cold... and at least the public put-downs have stopped, I'm getting some respect.

01-22-2012, 06:36 AM	#7 (permalink)
Zhopa Member Join Date: Jan 2012 Posts: 36	Re: Husband is not interested in sex anymore. Hello XSunnyX, We have the same problem... after having the baby, my wife, who used to match my high level of desire (heck we'd do it any chance we could get through the ninth month) utterly lost interest. Refused to have her hormone levels checked, though something changed... refused to do anything to even try and make this better. There are variations in details, as my wife's sexual rejection of me has expanded to other areas; for example, she puts me down in front of the children or in front of other people. Does the non-sex extend to other areas (not necessarily abuse, but perhaps there is something)? Think about it...I am not certain that counselling is useful or just prolonging the inevitable with the counsellors making the big money. Of course we could swop partners and everyone will be happy... just kidding as I'm a dirty old man of 47... but the point is, you and I feel that good frequent sex is important to the relationship and our spouses do not. Romantic_Guy is on the mark: I have stopped chasing, I'm nice & cold... and at least the public put-downs have stopped, I'm getting some respect.