COguy

Wolfman, something tells me that you will end up with this woman and instead of gaining the happy life that you have been dreaming about, will lose both a woman that cares about you and gave you a good life and the respect of an old friend.

You are suffering from Grass-is-Greener syndrome. If you didn't like your wife, why did you marry her? The guilt and loss of respect for yourself that you will feel from this will far outweigh the benefits of having your fun.

Sooner or later the dream will fade, and you will remember the life you gave up and long for it like you are longing for this woman. Then you will remember that you can't ever have it, because you will realize that you betrayed your trusting wife, and broke a commitment to yourself (that you would remain faithful to her).

Don't wait until you've ruined your life to realize what you are giving up. Your wife is a gift to you.

I know what you mean because my wife was my Plan B, and even though I loved her and cared about her, I always treated her as such with my actions. It wasn't until she started running away from me that I realized what I had. I look at my Plan A now and where I used to have envy, now I am glad it turned out the way it did.

Your EA partner getting married could be the best thing to ever happen to you if you let it. Don't throw it away for some fun times. What future can you have when you break commitments to yourself to be with someone that breaks their own commitments? There is only pain and regret on your current path.