Talk About Marriage - View Single Post - Hi, New Here...seeking some advice (married almost 12 years) Arguing all the time

reddevilmary · 03-12-2008, 04:28 PM

Kirablue, thank you for your opinion and insight. You might be right, and there is a part of me that is very resentful about the whole thing. BUT, big BUT, what good does it do me and/or our marriage to hang on to that resentment? I do have moments in which I think, yes, I was totally manipulated...but the truth is that I could have said, NO. Really, I could have.

So if this is an issue that must be dealt with, what suggestions do you have for dealing with it in a productive manner? Hashing it over again and again doesn't seem to be the way to go???? What ways could I do this in a manner that would preserve what good parts of the marriage we have????

Thanks!

03-12-2008, 04:28 PM	#9 (permalink)
reddevilmary Registered User Join Date: Mar 2008 Posts: 26	Re: Hi, New Here...seeking some advice (married almost 12 years) Arguing all the time Kirablue, thank you for your opinion and insight. You might be right, and there is a part of me that is very resentful about the whole thing. BUT, big BUT, what good does it do me and/or our marriage to hang on to that resentment? I do have moments in which I think, yes, I was totally manipulated...but the truth is that I could have said, NO. Really, I could have. So if this is an issue that must be dealt with, what suggestions do you have for dealing with it in a productive manner? Hashing it over again and again doesn't seem to be the way to go???? What ways could I do this in a manner that would preserve what good parts of the marriage we have???? Thanks!