demora

svsrob, The things you talk about with your health and how your doctors have not been able to get to the bottom of it, makes me wonder if you don't have Lupus or some other auto-immune type thing going on. Lupus is very hard to diagnose and especially if the doctor is not familiar with it. It took them years to diagnose my mother. She spent most of my childhood in the hospital and they even went as far to tell her that she was crazy - it was all in her head.

Sometimes it's hard for a healthy person to truly understand what the ill person is going through (speaking frome experience). I took care of my mom for quite sometime and sometimes it seemed like it was the center of my life as well as hers and I got really tired of it...and at times I felt like by being so supportive, I was "enabling" what felt at times like her infatuation with being sick...it wasn't infatuation, it is something that is slowly destroying her body.

Try to be understand of what your husband is saying about his empathy, but don't let him get away with not being sensitive to it. I know it sounds cold or unfeeling to get angry when someone you love is ill....but I guess the anger is in some ways fear maybe. I still get mad and resentful of the time it takes to care for my mom, but I don't take it out on her because I realize now what I'm angry at and it's not her.