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fandj03 · 03-12-2008, 05:32 PM

I don't intend to have an affair, and don't get me wrong, I don't want to leave him just so I can sleep with someone else. I'm hoping to suggest counseling, but just to be honest, he probable won't agree. He sure won't agree to discuss it even with me(and I know about it!) Bout 3 weeks ago, he pushed my 4 year old for no reason(seriously-all she did was walk up and say she wanted to play-she didn't yell or even touch him). He just turned around and shoved her, she tripped over a shoe and went running to her bedroom crying. When he finally apologized after about 2 hours, I heard her ask him, "Do you still love me?" That tore me apart. Then, the other night, she woke up during the night to pee. My one year old also woke up at the same time. So, I grabbed the one year old and figured he could make sure she got to the bathroom. She went and peed, but she got confused b/c it was the middle of the night and she was tired and sleepy. She wouldn't come out of the bathroom. Well, my husband had to pee. WE HAVE ANOTHER BATHROOM, BUT HE WOULDN'T GO TO IT!!!!! So, he picked her up(to eye level), and dropped her onto the floor. He swore he didn't, but I saw it with my own to eyes. He just didn't realize I had come back into the room. So, now, I worry about what comes next. And-if my 4 year old tells me that he did something to her-I won't know if I should believe her or not. B/c I have seen a bit of a violent side. And this has been a large part of the reason that I think I'm so determined to talk to him and convince him one way or the other now. What if he hits her next time? Not to mention, he's not listening when I say "no" in the bedroom anymore. Though, last time, I finally got him to stop(after I became hysterical). He's become different in the past couple of weeks, and I'm scared of what comes next. If I don't do something now, will I end up just putting up with it and never really living my life?

03-12-2008, 05:32 PM	#4 (permalink)
fandj03 Registered User Join Date: Mar 2008 Posts: 8	Re: Any Advice would be helpful I don't intend to have an affair, and don't get me wrong, I don't want to leave him just so I can sleep with someone else. I'm hoping to suggest counseling, but just to be honest, he probable won't agree. He sure won't agree to discuss it even with me(and I know about it!) Bout 3 weeks ago, he pushed my 4 year old for no reason(seriously-all she did was walk up and say she wanted to play-she didn't yell or even touch him). He just turned around and shoved her, she tripped over a shoe and went running to her bedroom crying. When he finally apologized after about 2 hours, I heard her ask him, "Do you still love me?" That tore me apart. Then, the other night, she woke up during the night to pee. My one year old also woke up at the same time. So, I grabbed the one year old and figured he could make sure she got to the bathroom. She went and peed, but she got confused b/c it was the middle of the night and she was tired and sleepy. She wouldn't come out of the bathroom. Well, my husband had to pee. WE HAVE ANOTHER BATHROOM, BUT HE WOULDN'T GO TO IT!!!!! So, he picked her up(to eye level), and dropped her onto the floor. He swore he didn't, but I saw it with my own to eyes. He just didn't realize I had come back into the room. So, now, I worry about what comes next. And-if my 4 year old tells me that he did something to her-I won't know if I should believe her or not. B/c I have seen a bit of a violent side. And this has been a large part of the reason that I think I'm so determined to talk to him and convince him one way or the other now. What if he hits her next time? Not to mention, he's not listening when I say "no" in the bedroom anymore. Though, last time, I finally got him to stop(after I became hysterical). He's become different in the past couple of weeks, and I'm scared of what comes next. If I don't do something now, will I end up just putting up with it and never really living my life?